I am using jquery form validation grouping issue

I am using jquery form validation plugin and I am having three dropdown for 开发者_开发知识库birth date (date, month,year) if user have not selected any one of dropdown or all I want to show single error message instead of three and also want to highlight the fied as well. same thing want to apply for text fied as well. Please help me I am stucked....

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Can you post the link of this plugin you're using? jQuery have many plugins to do that. If you paste a code shard your be easier to find a good answer.

Cya.